Once upon a time, right?, there was a boy who came home from school and tossed his jacket on the floor. His parents would pick it up eventually and hang it up. One day they decided that this was crazy and they told their vary capable son that they expected him to hang up his own jacket. The next day he came home and tossed his jacket on the floor. Every day he continued to do the same. One of his parents would remind him to hang it up and so it would get hung up and all were happy, mostly. The parents felt satisfied that they were no longer hanging up their son’s jacket. But – weren’t they?
I have told this story to people over the years and those close to me simply refer to “the jacket story” when talking about building dependence when one thinks one is building INdependence. The parents in the story are enabling their son’s dependence on them to get the jacket hung up. He’s not doing anything independently. The point is that we want children to grow to think for themselves, by their own steam. You can’t achieve this by being the catalyst all the time.
Stop hanging up the children’s jackets already! Let’s create some thought.