Only connect. That’s the basic message if we want “high functioning, high achieving” students/people. Only connect to what you’re learning, what you’re exploring. Connect via interest and passion. Connect via the freedom to be “you”. Connect via personal responsibility.
I had a conversation yesterday with an elementary teacher about changing the name of a drop-off box in the class from “work to be corrected” to “work for review”. The point was that when the teacher sets him/herself up as the “correcter” they are saying “I’m the authority with the answers, I’ll tell you what’s right or wrong”. This does NOT encourage the student to engage, assume responsibility or value their own abilities. Ask them if they want their work reviewed in order to improve, get guidance, etc. and you’ve shifted the nature of the interaction: they are now collaborating actively in their learning, you’re not the authority unleashing pronouncements.
Just remember – learning requires an active, engaged learner.